Happy Valentines

If you know me, you know I love to go to dinner with the Tamster, my wife of 40 years. Every weekend we look for adventure and somehow tie a great meal with it. But let me give you Valentine pro-tip:
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You don’t need to feel the pressure to buy the flowers, and score the best seat at the best restaurant. (Hey if you love doing that, have at it! I’m not a hater of that...I just think your settling for less. For the expected. For the same old-same old. Here’s my suggestion:
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If you know your mates love language, you’re ahead of the game. If you don’t, then figure it out. It’s going to be one of these:
1. Quality Time: This is Tammy’s. She loves to be with me doing anything. So what I do is plan adventures, road trips, anything that lets us hang together.
2. Touch: this is mine. I’m a hugger. If I shake your hand I’ll probably grab your elbow with my other hand. I hit you when I walk by. So literally The Tamster runs to the door when I get home with her incredible smile and gives me a hug and kiss.
3. Words of affirmation: some of us just need an “atta boy” or a “you look amazing today” or “you’re really good at what you do”. This would be a well crafted letter, sharing how valuable your mate is.
4. Gift giving / acts of service: doing one of their chores. Bringing them a gift of any size or value as long as it’s from the heart.
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So this Valentine weekend give your mate what their love language screams for. (Go do the dinner, flower, candy thing if you want) but the best gift will be the one that speaks their love language!
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Happy Valentine’s to you. And leave a comment telling me what you’re plans are, I might steal it!