marriage fight club

“All we do lately is argue about every little thing!” This defines way too many marriages. Why do 2 people who love each other and chose to be together, fight?!
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The short answer is because we are flawed, broken, selfish, sinful people. Because of that we minimize and hide our own flaws, and we look to blame someone else.
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Now there are legitimate issues that need to be addressed, but when not handled right..verbal punches are thrown and fight or flight happens. Neither are good.
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Here are som pro tip ground rules!
For the initiator:
1. Identify the root problem
2. Find a quiet time and place
3. Deal with it quickly
4. Don’t attack but share observations.
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For the responder:
1. Don’t be defensive
2. Don’t respond right away. Listen
3. Learn to apologize
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There’s a lot more that could be said but this will get you started.