Vows

40 years ago, in a church on the east side of Birmingham, I looked into the Tamster’s blue eyes and said,
“Tammy, before God and these witnesses today, I promise to love and honor you, to cherish you as the woman God has made just for me. No matter the circumstances, in wealth or in poverty, in sickness Orin health, for better or worse, I pledge to you all of my love, for as long as we both shall live.”
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These words mean something. It was a pledge. A vow. Not just to her but before God. I’ve quoted and whispered these words in here ear a few times over the years. The word that always stands out...the word... CHERISH.
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Cherish, means to “care for tenderly”...”to esteem as valuable, priceless”. When we see our wife in that way...it’s a game changer in our relationship.
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When our focus is on caring for her and not worrying whether she is caring for us...the marriage wins! When we focus on the value they bring to us, the priceless treasure they are, flaws and all...we win!
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I truly believe if every man regarded his wife as more important than himself, that that man, would be found irresistible to his wife.
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If we quit comparing, or focusing on the bad, if we committed to meeting her needs, hearing her heart, our relationship would be transformed.
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The success of your marriage in most cases, lies within your ability to cherish your wife.